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Inferiority Complex...Are u experincing dis?

Inferiority complex is a persistent sense of inadequacy or a tendency to self-diminishment, sometimes resulting in excessive aggressiveness through overcompensation. Such feelings can arise from an imagined or actual inferiority in the afflicted person.
For example: “I’m not like them..”, “I am embarrassed of myself..”

The common characteristics are:

-a deep rooted disbelief in yourself, despite any skills or successes

-a sense of helplessness and fear

-expressing yourself in destructive ways-discouraging yourself from certain things that need to be done

-disliking going into the company of others, meetings or dinner parties etc.

-fear when meeting a stranger

-shrinking from attempting the difficult

-steer away from anything that may be criticized

This might be due to 4 major factors:

1-Parental attitudes and upbringing - disapproving negative remarks and evaluations of behavior, emphasizing mistakes and shortcomings determine the attitude of the child before the age of six.

2-Physical defects - such as disproportional facial and body features, weight, height, strength, speech defects and defective vision cause inferiority complexes.

3-Mental limitations - brings feelings of inferiority when unfavorable comparisons are made with the superior achievements of others, and when satisfactory performance is expected.

4-Social disadvantages and discriminations - family, race, sex, sexual orientation, economic status, religion, or color.


Some tips to overcome:

*Positive thinking-everyone has their own strength and weaknesses
*Groom yourself
*Improve your dressing sense-wear clothes that flatter your body structure
*Place a price on yourself, on your knowledge, ability, dignity and self-respect
*If people with names or titles make you feel small, self-conscious and insignificant avoid close contact with them. But, associate with those who r from the same standard with u or easy to say, those who make u comfortable.
*Sell yourself on the fact that you are as good, as capable, as important and even better in some respects, as those with whom you usually associate.
*If you have been too willing to take "second best"; if you are forever apologizing for living or for taking up room, how can you expect others to value you as a person? You have definite capabilities which you and you alone can develop and capitalize upon.
*If you feel you are not liked or wanted or welcomed when you come in company with certain people, it may be due to the fact that you expect too much. So, dun expect too much from others... What can u expect? U can't satisfy everyone in this world rite?
*For Muslims, remember..Allah does not create something useless.
Find yourself and be yourself,there is no one else on earth like you.
you cannot be like others, but you can be better than them..Insyaallah...:)

Your self-concept is often shaped by those around you and affects how you view yourself in relation to other people. If you feel inferior to others, use these methods to change your self-concept. Improve your feeling of self-worth. Gain confidence in interacting with others. Conquer your feeling of inferiority.

"Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin as self-neglecting."
--Shakespeare, King Henry V