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Inferiority Complex...Are u experincing dis?

Inferiority complex is a persistent sense of inadequacy or a tendency to self-diminishment, sometimes resulting in excessive aggressiveness through overcompensation. Such feelings can arise from an imagined or actual inferiority in the afflicted person.
For example: “I’m not like them..”, “I am embarrassed of myself..”

The common characteristics are:

-a deep rooted disbelief in yourself, despite any skills or successes

-a sense of helplessness and fear

-expressing yourself in destructive ways-discouraging yourself from certain things that need to be done

-disliking going into the company of others, meetings or dinner parties etc.

-fear when meeting a stranger

-shrinking from attempting the difficult

-steer away from anything that may be criticized

This might be due to 4 major factors:

1-Parental attitudes and upbringing - disapproving negative remarks and evaluations of behavior, emphasizing mistakes and shortcomings determine the attitude of the child before the age of six.

2-Physical defects - such as disproportional facial and body features, weight, height, strength, speech defects and defective vision cause inferiority complexes.

3-Mental limitations - brings feelings of inferiority when unfavorable comparisons are made with the superior achievements of others, and when satisfactory performance is expected.

4-Social disadvantages and discriminations - family, race, sex, sexual orientation, economic status, religion, or color.


Some tips to overcome:

*Positive thinking-everyone has their own strength and weaknesses
*Groom yourself
*Improve your dressing sense-wear clothes that flatter your body structure
*Place a price on yourself, on your knowledge, ability, dignity and self-respect
*If people with names or titles make you feel small, self-conscious and insignificant avoid close contact with them. But, associate with those who r from the same standard with u or easy to say, those who make u comfortable.
*Sell yourself on the fact that you are as good, as capable, as important and even better in some respects, as those with whom you usually associate.
*If you have been too willing to take "second best"; if you are forever apologizing for living or for taking up room, how can you expect others to value you as a person? You have definite capabilities which you and you alone can develop and capitalize upon.
*If you feel you are not liked or wanted or welcomed when you come in company with certain people, it may be due to the fact that you expect too much. So, dun expect too much from others... What can u expect? U can't satisfy everyone in this world rite?
*For Muslims, remember..Allah does not create something useless.
Find yourself and be yourself,there is no one else on earth like you.
you cannot be like others, but you can be better than them..Insyaallah...:)

Your self-concept is often shaped by those around you and affects how you view yourself in relation to other people. If you feel inferior to others, use these methods to change your self-concept. Improve your feeling of self-worth. Gain confidence in interacting with others. Conquer your feeling of inferiority.

"Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin as self-neglecting."
--Shakespeare, King Henry V

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim...

Sebelum ni kuhanya mendgr saje bhw "penantian itu satu penyeksaan".. Tp hari makin hari kurasakan driku yg terseksa oleh penantian yg belum tentu... Tah kenapa kurasakan hari itu xkan hadir utkku lg... Bahagia tlh jauh meninggalkanku...
Setlh hampir setgh dekat ku menunggu n menunggu namun bercambahnye tidak..
Kutggu dgn penuh sabar dan keyakinan hingga saban hari ku dibebani seksa...
Mungkin aku terlalu mengharap...Salahku jua terlalu percaya, silapku jua terlalu ditggu..Mmg slhku...

Skrg terimalah padahnye...Aku bagaikan zombi...bagaikan org khayal...high dlm dunia sndri... Sungguh, penungguan itu seksa bangat.. Ku tdk sanggup lg.. dimain, diherdik, dicaci, diberi kata2 manis yg jelas kosong dan lohong... Aku adalah driku... Jikaku berubah, ia adalah utk semua... Kata2 itu sgt menusuk kalbuku..
Kata2 itu sgt melukakan... Tlg...Tlg jgn katakannye...

Kutahu driku serba kekurangan...Biarlah aku pergi membawa driku yg terluka...
Berduka di sebalik wajah yg tdk matang ini... mungkin driku danggap tdk matang kerana itu tp slhkah aku memberi pendapatku? Slhkah aku berkata2? Slhkah aku menegur silapmu? Apakah egomu xmembenarkan aku membetulkan kamu?

Ini mmg tdk adil...Aku didiskriminasi kerna umurku...Kenapa? Mengapa?
Kuikut kata mu slame ini... Mengapa ble aku mula bgn kau mahu menjatuhkan aku?
Sungguh...hatiku xmampu menangkis kata2 itu... yg amat menusuk sanubariku...
Skrg pergila... Pergilah.... Penantian bakal berakhir...
Slmt tggal....huhu

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim...

Alhamdulillah..3 paper midterm dh selesai,lg 3 bakal menjelang tbe...
Yg dh lepas hrp dpt kujadikan pengajaran...
Bia rajin sket, fokus sket, doa ckp2,tdo pn berpada2...

Erm....
Bulan2 pose ni aku slalu membeli makanan di kafe n bazar di sini..
Kerap kali peristiwa yg membuatku terpana berlaku di dpn mata...

Peristiwa 1: di masjid, ketika mengambil makanan...
waktu tu student2 uia kuantan djemput ke masjid tersebut utk berbuka puasa.
Namun, tyme amik makanan tu xsangka aku dikelilingi oleh org2 gelojoh dan xbertimbang rase...
gelojoh kerana perlakuan mereka bagaikan org xbertamadun,berebut sane sini, tolak sane tolak sini,tepis sane sini walhal mereka2 itu sebenarnye pelajar UIAM...huhu...
Malu aku melihatnye...malu gak kt pkck2 yg tgk tu... malu... Manela ltk santun kte sebagai ank melayu...lbh2 lg adab kte sebagai org islam..hhuhu...
xckp lg dgn tu, makanan yg disediakan xckp plak utk sume sisters yg dtg..
Mane taknye..ble dlihat pggan sorg2 bergunung nasi n lauk... patutla...huhu..
Kerana itu, ade sesetgh sis xdpt pon mkn...mereka hanye berbuka dgn kurma n bubur lambuk yg xseberape shj...aku tgk pn sdey... Sdey...begini ke sikap pelajar2
uia yg digembar-gembur islamicnye??? Bertimbang rase pd insan laen adalah satu sifat terpuji dlm islam jg. Bkn hanye menjg aurat, muamalah atau pelajaran... Jgn kerana dpt mkn free kte angkut je sume.. Sepatutnye ble dh dpt mkn free mknlah dgn seadanye, ckp sekadar penawar lapar n dahaga. Tmbhn lg,jgnla merungut psal mkanan tu, dh org bg, mkn jela..jgn byk songeh, merungut sane merungut sini...Kalu pakck2 tu dgr camane? tmbah dose kte adela...huuuuu...

Peristiwa 2: ptg td, ketika beli mkanan di gerai dpn musolla bro...
Ni pon melibatkan bdk uia gak...huhu...
tgh2 syok aku n membe beli mkn n tggu pakcik tu bgkuskan, tbe2 ade sis ni tolak membe aku ke tepi n then ckp"tepi sket, nk amik lauk ni.."aku terkilan ngan perbuatan die kerana mmg jelas kami berada di situ menunggu lauk kami, bleh plak minah ni tolak kwn aku... Kalu ye pn kami menghalang beliau mengambil lauk,xleh ke tggu sekejap sehgga kami selesai ataupn kalu dh nk cpt sgt mintakla kami ke tepi dgn sopan sket, jgn ditolak aje...huhu...

Aku, bknlah insan yg sempurna utk menegur org2 seperti ini. mgkn aku jg pernah melakukannye..Ttp hrpnye kte bisa berubah menjadi lbh & lbh baik lg pd mase akan dtg..Post ini hanyelah sebagai peringatan kpd driku dan juga kamu...
Sekian:)....

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim...
Dh masuk Ramadhan dh. Dh lame sgt xpost bende baru kt blog ni. bkn pe, bz + mls + xde idea...
Berkenaan tajuk kat ats tu, sebenarnye ade ctenye...
Br2 ni aku sembang2 ngn membe2 psal byk mende...
Tbe2 terkeluarla satu cte nih...
Psal ade sorg ni ske bwk mulut n dengki org n gle pangkat...(Xcaye? Pecayelah..) Kami sebenarnye msg2 sudah mengetahui sifat buruknye itu cume kami rahsiekan saje dalam hati ni. Bukan pe, xnk jd cam diela... Skali ade membe ni mmg xthn ngan pe die wat smpai terluah kt kami2... Kami yg mendgr ni terkedu ble perkara y same terjadi kt kami jg terjadi pd drinye.. Cian die...huhu...
Ape yg dilakukannye biala kami2 yg simpan.. Xde faedah pon kami cte kt org laen.. Yg penting sekrg kami sedar yg bkn sume org yg nmpak baik tu baik n bleh dpercayai... Buat yg membaca harapnye bleh ambil pengajaran...
Jgn terlalu pecaye kt org,kdg2 die leh wat sumthng yg sgt xdisangka kte.
Yg nmpak baik pn xsemestinye baek...yg nmpak jht xsemestinye jht...
In addition, kte ni harus jg lua dalam... kalu lua kte nmpak baek jgn kt dlm kte ibadat xjg, mulut xjg, muamalah xjg, dengki sane sini, jd batu api buat ape?? Xde maknenye...Allah Maha Mengetahui... Walaupun tembelang anda tdk pecah smpai ble2 xbermakne anda xdpt dosa...Moga kte sume bertaubat...Bln2 pose ni bykkan ibadat n muhasabah... Slmt Berpuasa!!!:)

xdtegur slh, ditegur pn slh..
diam slh, berkate2 apetah lg..
kubuat kerjaku slh
kubuat kerja2 umah pn slh..
abis tu nk wat ape lg?
berambus je kot..huhu~~

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim...
Hmm...semester baru da bermula mggu lps tp mood utk blaja still xde lg...huhu...
apekah yg perlu kulakukan?..huhuhu..somebody plz help me? Anybody?
Dhla xde mood pastu plak kt lam klas slalu kene dok blkg..huhu..
Pas2 ni kene g awal sejam kot, baru leh dok dpn..haha..
Xkisah pn dok blkg kalu nmpak jelas, dgr n leh concentrate tp mslhnye konsentrasiku sering terganggu dgn percakapan klasmateku yg xreti bahase org nk dgr lecture.. Kalu xnk dgr lecture senyap dhla...
Xslh nk nyembang sket2 time lecture tp biala perlahnkan suare n xkaco org laen. ni x, kte xmo dgr lecture tp wat bising lak..
Di smping wat klasmate yg lain bengkerk n xleh konsentrate juga bleh kurangkan keberkatan ilmu yg disampaikan lecturer tu sndri. Pastu celah mane nk cemerlangnye???
Huhu..Agknye mmg perangai bdk2 zmn ni kot?..huhu...
Hrp2 pasni leh konsentrate lam klas coz ilmu yg dismpaikan lam klas xternilai harganye...Insyaallah akan diusahakan...
Same2la kte mencari keberkatan bersame ilmu yg dpelajari..:)
N hopefully semgt utk blaja rajin2 akan dpt di'regain' blk sem ni..hi3..
Chaiyok2!!!

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim...
Dh lame sgt x post new thngs kt sini..
Well..nothing spesel pn..
2 3 mggu ni i've been thnking a lot and i think that i've changed.
I've gained many valuable experience n some sweet n sour memories..
Those thngs are very precious to me no matter whether its bad or good thing..
What had happen had changed me so much..
I dun know if anybody would hate me bcoz of those changes but all i knw is that i am nobody else but me..so plz accept me da way i am..:)

.....not in a gud condition today..but gotta be strong coz tomorrow is a big day..:)........

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim...
Da agk lame xpost sumthng new kt blog ni.. Kemalasan melanda n bz ngan family..
Dh xsampai semggu dh nk blk kuantan...huhu..
Harapnye smpat smbut hari lahir kt umah, eventhough xde majlis or hadiah tp kalu leh smbut kt umah mmg satu perkara yg best..:) I wonder taun ni abah nk bg hadiah pe plak...ha3..Ingat lg 2 thn lps die bg aku hadiah durian... Thn lps dpt kek sebijik. Thn ni xksh pn, aku rase aku dh dpt hadiahnye:)... Aku xhrp pape, cume inginkan abah semakin pulih n kesihatan ummi kekal baek..:)

Cuti da nk abis tp still ade bnde yg xwat...
1. Lubang smpah yg digali 2 hari lepas belum dikambus elok2. Sbbnye semlm ujan, arini plak rase lth sket. (alasan je ni..) adik aku yg byk memberi khidmat menggali(thanks to him, smpai merah2 tgn die..huhu) tp aku yg jd kepalanye, so kene siapkan cepat b4 blk kuantan.
2. Alamk, kain nk wat bju raye xbeli lg...!!!huhu... Tula, ummi dh byk kali suh g beli xnk. Pdn muka!!:P ala, sebnrnye agak mls nk beli tu sbb dh janji ngn sumone nk beli sesame. N satu lg coz xtau nk tempah ktne, kt tmpat biase tu xcantik die jahit(tiap kali hanta pn spoil je), tu yg rase mls tu. Ingat nk jht sndri baju raye t tp mesin jahit kt umah ni rosak. Tggulah, nnt beli baru...Yeay!!!:)
3. Ha...abah suh taipkan pe ek utk die semlm? Mesti dh lupe nih..Ish3..najma, najma...huhu..jap yek abah...skrg gak ma wat..hehe...
Iklan utk kedai hardware abahku. Cket je, tp ble dah malas gnila...huhu..

Pe lg ek?...Tu je kot aku rase.. Esok luse nk kene g shopping brg2 nk bwk g kuantan. Nk ajak sape tah..haha..sapela yg jd mgsa aku nnt..ha3...
Oklah, have a nice day everyone...=)