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Sunday June 21, 2009
How to succEEd in life
By Dr LEONARD YONG
Knowing how to develop your emotional intelligence can help you succeed in the workplace.

EVERYONE wants to be successful in life. Success can be attained by some but for many others it is only an elusive dream.

It was widely held that one’s success in life is measured by one’s Intelligence Quotient or IQ. But in recent times, it has been proven that Emotional Intelligence (EI) is also an important determinant.


Dr Yong talked to participants of a psychology seminar:

"EI is often defined as comprising two components: intrapersonal skills (or self awareness) and interpersonal skills (the ability to relate well with others).

Studies have shown that people with high EI are often the most successful in their personal lives as well as in their careers.

Thus, knowing how to develop your EI to an optimum can help you succeed in the workplace. However, merely being knowledgeable about EI does not enable an individual to be emotionally intelligent.

I have discovered that people are not able to be emotionally intelligent because they are not motivated. At the core of the motivation problem is our heart or, more specifically, our spiritual heart.

In my research over the last decade, I have found that in order to be consistently emotionally intelligent, an individual needs to develop Emotional Excellence (EE), which is the heart motivation. Leaders who are emotionally excellent will be able to help their organisation to connect with its most important asset — people. When this special connection exists, the leaders will be able to lead others with their hearts.

Employees working under these leaders are inspired to give their best, to work from their hearts, and to channel their creative energies to produce an emotionally intelligent organisation.

Using these ideas as pioneering director of the University of Malaya Centre for Continuing Education from 1998 to 2002, the centre became self-financing and profitable within a very short period.

Understanding our personality is crucial to knowing our strengths and weaknesses and developing our emotional excellence.

Personality refers to the stable and unique patterns of behaviour that determine a person’s adaptation to the environment.

Researchers have generally employed four basic approaches to obtain a better insight into the construction of personality. These approaches are the personality structure, psychoanalytic theory, transactional analysis and developmental theories.

There have been numerous attempts throughout the centuries to describe personality. One of the earliest was documented by the Greek physician Hippocrates who listed the four temperaments as phlegmatic, melancholic, sanguine, and choleric.

In the last decade, however, there was a consensus among personality researches that there are actually five main factors (called Big Five) of personality descriptions."

> Dr Leonard Yong is an educational psychologist. He consults internationally and is now based in Dubai (www.leonard.com.my). He will address the Malaysia Festival of the Mind, jointly organised by Universiti Tunku Abdul Rahman, Malaysia Mental Literacy Movement and Kolej Tunku Abdul Rahman, to be held July 10-12 at Utar’s Perak campus in Kampar. Admission is free. For enquiries call 03-76250328 or e-mail
mmlm@utar.edu.my
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In psychology, the "Big Five" personality traits are five broad factors or dimensions of personality developed through lexical analysis. The traits are also referred to as the "Five Factor Model" (FFM).The five factors are Openness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism. For more info bout this click here....

Hmmmm...Quite an interesting article. These days lots of my frens tell me dat i'm "smart" and talented. But i dnt think so. I think its becoz my EI is not at satisfying level. Well, maybe i'm gud in my study but i'm quite suck in dealing with my own feeling. At this age, i still don't know what i really want to be n wat i want in my life. Sumtimes eventough i had gud marks i felt like nothing. There's no motivation in my life. Its like i'm juz doing wat i should do, juz like a robot, heartless. huhu... So, can anyone help me? Anybody, sumbody?


P/S:Enjoy reading this..:)