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Retrieved from http://thestar.com.my/education/story.asp?file=/2009/6/21/education/4134307&sec=education
Sunday June 21, 2009
How to succEEd in life
By Dr LEONARD YONG
Knowing how to develop your emotional intelligence can help you succeed in the workplace.

EVERYONE wants to be successful in life. Success can be attained by some but for many others it is only an elusive dream.

It was widely held that one’s success in life is measured by one’s Intelligence Quotient or IQ. But in recent times, it has been proven that Emotional Intelligence (EI) is also an important determinant.


Dr Yong talked to participants of a psychology seminar:

"EI is often defined as comprising two components: intrapersonal skills (or self awareness) and interpersonal skills (the ability to relate well with others).

Studies have shown that people with high EI are often the most successful in their personal lives as well as in their careers.

Thus, knowing how to develop your EI to an optimum can help you succeed in the workplace. However, merely being knowledgeable about EI does not enable an individual to be emotionally intelligent.

I have discovered that people are not able to be emotionally intelligent because they are not motivated. At the core of the motivation problem is our heart or, more specifically, our spiritual heart.

In my research over the last decade, I have found that in order to be consistently emotionally intelligent, an individual needs to develop Emotional Excellence (EE), which is the heart motivation. Leaders who are emotionally excellent will be able to help their organisation to connect with its most important asset — people. When this special connection exists, the leaders will be able to lead others with their hearts.

Employees working under these leaders are inspired to give their best, to work from their hearts, and to channel their creative energies to produce an emotionally intelligent organisation.

Using these ideas as pioneering director of the University of Malaya Centre for Continuing Education from 1998 to 2002, the centre became self-financing and profitable within a very short period.

Understanding our personality is crucial to knowing our strengths and weaknesses and developing our emotional excellence.

Personality refers to the stable and unique patterns of behaviour that determine a person’s adaptation to the environment.

Researchers have generally employed four basic approaches to obtain a better insight into the construction of personality. These approaches are the personality structure, psychoanalytic theory, transactional analysis and developmental theories.

There have been numerous attempts throughout the centuries to describe personality. One of the earliest was documented by the Greek physician Hippocrates who listed the four temperaments as phlegmatic, melancholic, sanguine, and choleric.

In the last decade, however, there was a consensus among personality researches that there are actually five main factors (called Big Five) of personality descriptions."

> Dr Leonard Yong is an educational psychologist. He consults internationally and is now based in Dubai (www.leonard.com.my). He will address the Malaysia Festival of the Mind, jointly organised by Universiti Tunku Abdul Rahman, Malaysia Mental Literacy Movement and Kolej Tunku Abdul Rahman, to be held July 10-12 at Utar’s Perak campus in Kampar. Admission is free. For enquiries call 03-76250328 or e-mail
mmlm@utar.edu.my
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In psychology, the "Big Five" personality traits are five broad factors or dimensions of personality developed through lexical analysis. The traits are also referred to as the "Five Factor Model" (FFM).The five factors are Openness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism. For more info bout this click here....

Hmmmm...Quite an interesting article. These days lots of my frens tell me dat i'm "smart" and talented. But i dnt think so. I think its becoz my EI is not at satisfying level. Well, maybe i'm gud in my study but i'm quite suck in dealing with my own feeling. At this age, i still don't know what i really want to be n wat i want in my life. Sumtimes eventough i had gud marks i felt like nothing. There's no motivation in my life. Its like i'm juz doing wat i should do, juz like a robot, heartless. huhu... So, can anyone help me? Anybody, sumbody?


P/S:Enjoy reading this..:)

What would u do
if people juz don't see u?

What would u do
if people wouldn't hear u?

What would u do
when others don't accept u?

What would u do
when hell no one cares about u?

What would u do
when u r being left out.....?

What would u do
if u r alone
all alone....

What would u do....???










God is always in the side of those who has patience in them.
Don't ever give up on ALLAH...
Allahuakbar!!!

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim...

Slps kematian noni, our lil cute ank kambing(die skt mulut, kene suapkan susu botol sbb die xley mkn sndri). Sdey gak r coz die comel n nkl, ske maen2 ngan die... Mase awl2 dlu sht jer, lompat sane sini, geram tgk. tp 3 hari lepas die da mati.. Cian die...huhu...xsempat nk bwk jumpe veterinar..sori cyg..huhu..



Kemarin, abahku bwk blk 4bijik telur puyuh yg die jumpe mase bwk kambing2 g mkn. Lalu die ltkla lam incubator pemberian pak cik din(adik agkt abah aku). Xsampai sehari telur2 tu tetas, kuarla ank2 puyuh 4 ekor(alhamdulillah)=)...comel je...kecik je, besar ibu jari aku..hi3...

Tgk ank2 puyuh ni, rase hepinyer ade pet baru kt umah ni..hi3..tp cian lak kt diorg xde parent. As u know, ank2 brg or ayam or pape jela even ank manusia pn xpandai mkn sndri mase baby. So,they need their parents. N semlm abah wat keputusan nk beli sepsg puyuh utk jd ibu bapa agkt ank2 puyuh tu.

Abah ltk diorg sume lam sangkar yg comel n berlapikkan srt khabar.. Hope the family lives happily in their own house..hihi..Nk tgk? Ni gambanye...





Cute kan? hi3...
k daa....

~dedicated to my ex-best fren n anyone who involved in the story...

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim...
I dnt know where to start~huhu~
Last nyte i cried so hard that i couldn't sleep.
So sorry my fren..I now realize how much u hate me n dun want to have anything with me anymore. My past mistakes had taken its toll on me.

I'm not gud in expressing my feeling. So, i think it's ok if i juz write what had happen at 'that time'. It will not bring u back to me though but at least it will put me at ease.

Now, 'listen' to me carefuly...
That day, i was out with 'u know who' when i told 'u know who' about what happen the nite b4,but i admit that it was my fault for not telling him the whole story, i juz tell him how do i feel when u said that words that nite. coz for me its not important for him to know all the story but maybe i was wrong. i'm soooorry...

Honestly, i didn't tell 'u know who' to be mad n yell at u. I also didn't talk bad about u in front of him. i was just telling how sad i feel when u said that words. It was nvr my intention to make u two quarrel like that. I was sad bcoz of that words u said to me, so sad... It made me cried hard that nite.

Perhaps u know that i'm a sensitive person, but still u said that words that nite. I felt like crying n that's y i left the room immediately n said that i had headache. It was a sensitive thng to me, u must know that. 'u know who' is very important to me. He's my closest fren and he's my rival. For me, who has a big family and a youngest sis, i couldn't say much to my family. What i feel n what i want, my hepines, my sadness my dreams, my academic are not what i should be talking to my family. They don't give a damn for it. I juz have to deal it on my own.

N dats y i need him. He always helps me, criticizes me, encourages me, trust me and listen to me. BUt u girls, 'my GENG' as it was called always abandons me, push me aside, and even set a plan to destroy my life. He's my guardian angel, and i definitely can depend on him. I want to lean on u girls but how can i trust sumone who always talk behind my back n sumone who can't even share things with me? hu3

I'm not blaming u, it was not ur fault. Maybe u were mad bcoz of what i said earlier that nite. N i was so sorry for that. N that nite ended up with u saying that words to me.

I could'nt hold back my feeling back then, n i told him about what u said that nite. He was so mad. But trust me, i was only trying to meluahkan perasaan je to him. Bkn nk suh die mrh2 u ke pe ke.

I dun even know when did 'u know who' send that 'luvly' sms to u. I'm so sorry. I tried hard to not let him send that sms. I agree that he could be mean when he's very mad. But after that case, he regretted doing that n he was sorry for that. so, pliz...forgive him. It wasn't his fault, he so angry back then.

I've nvr imagined that i could be that way. N it was all started with me telling him my feeling. I really regret it. I didn't regret for choosing 'u know who' , but i regret for not choosing the both of u at that time. Both of u mean a lot to me. If only i knew this would happen then i wouldn't tell him instead. But we knew already that time couldn't turn back although i cried my blood out.

So, that's how it was. That's my story, i may sound different from urs. But plz understand me. I'm sorry that when u came into my room after that i didn't say much.
It was not bcoz i dun want to but i couldn't. My touge was twisted n my blood was racing so fast that i could hear my own heartbeat. Forgive me that i was so bad at expressing my feeling once again. I should have told u all this.

I tried to tell u by a letter full of what i want u to know. But i was so afraid that time. I know that u wouldn't like that type of thng. But, it was the only thing i could do, n still i couldn't give it to u..huhuhu...

Now, i juz got to know that u r quite phobia to be frens with me. N i can see that in all ur actions these few weeks. So sorry to make u feel that way. I hope u will not be afraid to make frens with anyone after this juz bcoz what had happened btwn u n me.

Lastly, i wanna say i'm so sorry 4 evrythng n gudbye my fren...lets juz be this way...neither frens nor foes...
Thanks 4 being my best fren b4 n for what i've done, i will not bother u anymore n i won't appear in front of u anymore...
But one thng for sure i will always remember u as one of my bestest frens ever..
..................Tata.............

p/s:sori kalu entry ni menyinggung hati sesiapa..lgsg tdk berniat begitu. nway, time kaseh sbb bace..:)

Today i spent some time browsing my frens' blogs. Chantek2 n best2 blake... They all started blogging much more earlier than me. Mereka sume hebat2 blake. Aku kagum ade kwn2 mcm mereka...Percayalah, u guys r awesome..:) U r da best, my frens!!!

....then, i started to realize dat there's too much in this huge world that i dnt know n don't understand...huhu...Quite frustrating...:(...

...but, i'll nvr gv up.. nvr will i...:)...
I remember, since i was young i was being brought up so carefully by my parents n sisters. Since a child i always did what they wanted me to do.. n i was living in my own world until dat time came few years back..

Honestly, i envy my frens coz they always got sumthing to say about anythng, anythng...but me?? Me?? I nvr really know anything...seriously and truthfully, i know nothng... Compared to them i was juz like a 7-year-old kid..

....All my life, i only knew to ask my ummi, abah n my sisters about anything. For me, their opinions are so imprtant.. More important is to follow what they say coz i can't live if i did'nt obey any of it... Why? I dnt know...I juz live that way..

My abah told me, i was very smart and talented when i was a child. (ReallY?) He told me i when i first learn how to write n spell, i can write evrythng that he read. Then, he also told me that i was very good at memorising. (No wonder he once asked me to join the hafizah class in school back then.) But now, i think i'm losing it bits by bits..huhu...


After that, when the SPM result juz got released few years b4, abah said sumthng that really made me to tears. When i know my result,abah was the first to know bout it. When i told him my result, he congratulates me and then he says,
"Abah is very proud of u. Now, follow ur dreams n go wherever u want to study. Abah will always support u." Suddenly, i burst into tears. He's my hero, my man, my fren, my teacher, my evrythng...I luv him..

Now, i'm on my own.. Coz i have my own dreams n missions. I live my life in my own way.. But i'll nvr forget my family..They mean evrythng to me. There's no me without them..

So, what exactly i want to say then?...
Hmmm... actually, i envy my frens a lot..dats all..huhu..
From now on, i promise to myself to find my true self and gain more knowledge in my life.. I hope The Almighty will always by my side..N my family too...:)
~Oyasuminasai~

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim...

Penah x jumpe org yg ske sgt pinjam/gne brg org lain?
Aku penah...huhu..terase gakla bengang tu kdg2..
bknnye die xde brg tu tp saje sygkan brg die + kalu pinjam kan free jek..
so, pinjam lg baek kn? Kn?
Huhu~..

DGn suka hatinye die meminjam tp in the end die hanta sumthing yg dh rosak or xhanta lgsg or lg trok hilangkan brg yg dpinjam...
Wah..byk cntik die... dhla pinjam xjg brg org.. elokla tu..

xelok tau wat gtu..tau x betape marahnye tuan pnye brg tu kalu anda wat gtu kat die..
silap2 die sumpah2 anda, free2 je leh dosa..kan dh susah..:)

Dgn ini, di sini sy ingn pesan kt sume, kalu pnjam brg org tu ingat2la utk jg dgn baek n hanta kpd tuannye dlm keaadaan yg msh elok. Kalu terrosakkan tu have enuf sensela utk ganti blk ye...:)

Peace!!

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim...

It's been a long time since my last post.
Xsmpt bukak tenet coz i have to be a nanny 4 a week 4 my 3-year-old n 1-year-old nieces. Dhla bdk dua org tu nakal+buas(dlm 10org ank sedara aku diorg plg nakal:P)..ha3.. penin gak jg diorg...:)Tp ble dh bese okla:)



Yg bestnye ble jg diorg ni ialah ble diorg tdo dlm dakapan/rba/dukung aku...
Rase terharu...No wonder ibu2 syg bgt kt ank mereka..:)Cute je diorg tdo...hi3
Satu lg ble diorg dh ingat name aku n makin rapat ngan aku...Aku jrg jumpe diorg coz slalunye time aku kt umah xsame ngan time diorg blk kg. tp kali ni aku dtugaskan jg ank2 kak aku tu utk semggu. Best ble diorg pggl aku 'cik ma' byk2 kali. ha3:D

Tp yg plg best mesti r si nuha ilhami yg ske wat cik ma die gelak tu.. Die mmg my fav niece..muah2 nuha.. Ble aku ckp pape kt die die mesti ckp 'ha? ha?' ngan mulutnye yg ternganga seolah2 blur pdhal die paham sgt pe aku gtau die..hi3
tp xkisahla coz die comel bgt ble wat gtu..rase nk cubit2 je..hehe

Mggu lepas aku n kakak aku yg sorg lg siap kene tdo luar lg, sebelah diorg coz tkt diorg jg tgh mlm mintak susu. trpakse r wat kuar tilam n tdo kt luar.. semggu r xtdo kt katil lam blikku..huhu..

Dh ckp semggu, tibelah hari cutiku..haha...
6/6/09..tarikh majlis along,membe sekelasku..dh kawinla die(jeles aku:P)..
Tahniah along..Semoga Bhgia slalu:)...
Aku n membe baikku sepkt ke sana bersame dgn 'abe'nye yg akan jd driver.hehe..
Dan pg itu aku bertolak awal pg lg ke umah memberku itu.

Dh smpai sane, msk umah tgk along.. Wahhh...cntiknye along..:)
Mkn2 dlu, then sesi bergambar..then tibe mase utk jln2..:)
Kami pergi ke masjid kristal mule2 tu. Hepi gakla coz tu 1st time aku smpai ctu.




Then ikut memberku g pasar payang yg femes kat ganu tu..:)
Dpt beg sebiik..haha..:P kaler maroon lak tu..huhu
Hepinye..:)pastu, perjlnan pulang pn bemula. Otw tu aku smpat beli keropok losong utk org2 kt umah. Diorg suke mkn keropok, so tiap kali g ganu mesti bwk blk keropok kt diorg.:)

Mlm tu agak lewat smpai umah, bbq dh abis(ade bbq family aku pd hr yg same)..huhu...xsempat cik ma nk bakar ayam..
mkn jela seketul due. tp xpelah, i had a gud day..
ank2 sedareku sume ade mlm tu.. Aku lyn diorg smpai tertdo..
What a tiring and nice day i had..
Although penat tp its a great experience 4 me..
Br aku rase jd ibu tu penat + bru aku sedar ziarah n jln2 adlh care yg bgus utk enjoy n rptkan silaturrahim..

Hope we all have a gud day everyday..:)
Be Happy!!=)